Joseph and Mary

 

We’ve been looking at the different witnesses to Jesus birth this Advent season. The first week we looked at the Magi, their trek across the desert seeking the Lord, and compared their quest to Herod who was under the impression that He was the king and Lord, all that he ever needed. Some think they are all the god they will ever need, but wise men and women seek the real God, not a reflection of their ego. Last week we looked at the shepherds, and marveled that the angels singing to announce Jesus birth would sing to people as ordinary, really, people as looked down upon as the shepherds. I have been impressed that Jesus did not come to the powerful and the perfect, but He came for the shepherds, He came for everyone, He came for you and I. We can witness to His birth as well in our own lives.

 

So we come today to those closest to Jesus birth, Mary and Joseph. Mary would have been a young woman, no more than 16. It’s likely that Joseph was significantly older. While Mary is alive and well during Jesus ministry, Joseph is never mentioned which leads people to believe he had passed before Jesus began His ministry. But these two were visited by angels, had significant dreams guiding them to carefully care for the baby Jesus, and of all people, they are the best witnesses to what really happened when God became a man, the Word of God became flesh and dwelt among us. They were the ones who made the journey to Bethlehem, they were the ones chosen to have care of our Lord as He grew. Of all the witnesses, they are the best. Our reading today is from Matthew chapter 1, starting in verse 18.

 

This is how the birth of Jesus Christ came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit.  19 Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.

20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.  21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”

22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet:  23 “The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel”—which means, “God with us.”

24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife.  25 But he had no union with her until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus. [1]

 

Let’s pray.

 

Let’s start out quickly by remembering that Matthew is the Good News, the gospel written specifically focused on the Jews. Matthew wants the Jews to accept Jesus as their Messiah; but more than that, also their Lord and Savior. Matthew, like all the gospel writers, writes with a purpose. To begin the story of Jesus, Matthew begins with a genealogy of Joseph, the husband of Mary, to whom Christ was born. There are some very interesting people, I’ve learned recently, in that list. What is very interesting is that there are 5 women in there; some Jewish, some not; the Jewish women were both good and bad, the Gentiles women were also split, one good and one bad. It is odd in Jesus humanly father’s line that all people are represented; Jewish and not, good and bad, that Christ is born for all of them, and for all of us. But them Matthew goes into the story of Jesus birth, and the few verses that describe the trouble of Mary and Joseph, what they endured to be faithful and obedient to God mostly has to be read into the story. So let’s start that process.

 

This is how the birth of Jesus Christ came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit.  19 Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.

 

Back then a young woman pledged to be married, Mary would have been less than 16, remained apart from her husband for a year while they were pledged to each other to make sure the young woman wasn’t pregnant. Her purity was important to making sure that the new husband wasn’t raising someone else’s child; for Mary to become pregnant was a disgrace to her parents, it was disgraceful to her siblings, to her extended family and would have brought shame upon her whole village. There would have been a lot of finger pointing, and the truth is that her life was in danger. You might remember that the penalty for adultery, which this would have appeared to be, was death by stoning. You may know that in certain places in the Middle East still there are honor killings; male family members killing their pregnant sister or daughter to retain the family’s honor. It is rare, but still done. That was how serious this was.

 

Joseph wanted to quietly end their relationship, their potential marriage. Because they were pledged to be married, even though they weren’t, the dissolution of that relationship would have been a divorce, not simply a break up. But we learn something about silent Joseph; he is a righteous man. He is merciful, and instead of insisting on his rights that she be killed, he sought to divorce her quietly, and if the family desired, they could send Mary away to have the baby and protect her life. It is interesting that Joseph is described as “righteous”.  He is technically breaking the Law handed down by Moses that says that adulterers should be put to death. In fact, one of the women in the list in Matthew 1:1-17 is Tamar. Her husband had died, and his family was not living up to their duties to provide her with children; the youngest unmarried brother was supposed to marry her, but the family delayed. She then posed as a prostitute, and her father in law got her pregnant. Before her father in law, Judah, knew that in fact he was the baby’s father, he was going to have Tamar killed for adultery. It’s odd that many years later, the righteous father spared Mary, and sought to divorce her quietly when something similar happened. You can see though, that this was a potentially deadly situation for Mary.

 

But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.  21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”

 

One of my favorite commentators, Dr. Bailey, feels strongly that this word “considered” is not the most accurate meaning of the word in the text. He feels that there is a real level of anger that is not reflected in our English translations that people would have read and understood in Jesus day. So really, he feels that something like, after Joseph was really angry, and angel of the Lord appeared to him… Which frankly, makes more sense. Joseph’s plans for their life together had been squashed because Mary had gotten pregnant, or at least, that’s what he thought. Joseph had plans for his life, as we all do. But God’s plans for Joseph’s life were different than his plans. So Joseph comes to a cross road-what to do? How does Joseph remain faithful to God, how does he follow God when the plans change? How do we do that as well? Joseph had an angel come to visit him in a dream; that rarely happens to me, I’d guess that rarely happens to any of us.

 

We remain faithful to what we know God has told us. God may not tell us how long we have to wait for something to happen; but He has told us to trust Him and remain faithful to Him and not to sin in the process. God may tell us specifically how to deal with a situation, but we are told to love others, to encourage them, to reflect God’s nature in our lives. I think God entrusts us with a lot of freedom as His followers; sometimes we get it wrong because we’re angry, sometimes we get it right because we are focused on worshipping God even in our hard decisions. Even though God may not come to us in dreams, He has come to us in Christ, and we seek to live up to the honor and love that we have taken on as being disciples of Jesus. We won’t get angelic visitations very often, if ever. But we have the Holy Spirit to guide us and teach us, we have God’s Word, and we have the community of saints, our Christian brothers and sisters to help us make wise, godly, and often hard, decisions to follow Christ in how we live.

 

Joseph makes the hard decision; he does not toss Mary out, but will raise up this child who is not His, but who will be for all the people. Joseph listens, and obeys. He doesn’t talk back, doesn’t complain how unfair all this is, he simply listens and obeys. I tell you, that would make us all better disciples of Christ, if we simply followed Joseph’s example.

 

All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet:  23 “The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel”—which means, “God with us.”

24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife.  25 But he had no union with her until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus. [2]

 

Joseph simply obeys. He takes Mary home, in fact, he takes her to Bethlehem with him. You know, it would have been a lot easier for Joseph to make the journey by himself, rather than leading a pregnant lady across a good long section of Israel in order to register for the census that the Roman government was taking. Mary didn’t have to go with him. His paperwork would have been just fine if it was just Joseph. Heck, he legally wasn’t even married to her. So why does he take Mary on that trek? He has to protect her, he has to fulfill what God has asked him to do, to care for and protect the baby that was growing in Mary’s womb. Mary would have not had Joseph’s protection if she stayed behind in the village. So to stay safe, Mary has to make the trip, pregnant as she is, to Bethlehem. The baby has to be born in Bethlehem, so that works too, the prophesy needed to be fulfilled so we could be sure Jesus is the Messiah. But Mary couldn’t have stayed away from Joseph. She might have been killed. She had to make the trek to Bethlehem, pregnant as she was.

 

Joseph was a witness to the angel, to Mary’s condition, and must have heard her explanation of her condition, what the angel said to her as well. Mary and Joseph both received messages from angels, and they humbly obeyed the divine summons to be a part of the coming of the Messiah. They witnessed the miracles surrounding Jesus birth; Elizabeth’s wonderful and strange comments as Mary met her at the house; imagine having your cousin greet you with the words “Blessed are you among women and blessed is the child you bear! But why am I so favored that the mother of my Lord should come to me?” Without saying anything, Elizabeth knows Mary’s condition, and all about the special baby growing under her heart. They witnessed the shepherds coming in the middle of the night, eyes wide and stuttering that they too had seen angels, but not just one. One talked to them, but the whole night sky lit up with angels blessing the Lord because of the baby, because of Mary’s baby, the baby given to Joseph to protect in and beyond the womb.

 

Mary and Joseph witnessed, much later, the strange dignitaries from across the desert come into their home, and kneel down, worshipping God. Worshipping the baby Mary had borne. They worshipped, bringing with them all sorts of expensive gifts of incense and gold. Mary and Joseph witnessed another angel, coming in another dream, telling them to get up and flee to safety down in Egypt.

 

Mary lived long enough to see Jesus ministry, although she didn’t understand all of it. There was a time when she made Jesus make some wine for a party, there was a time when she and her other kids were trying to get Jesus attention, and Jesus said those who do the will of the Father are his mother and brothers. Mary lived long enough to see Jesus flogged, beaten and bloody, hanging on a cross on the hill of the skull outside Jerusalem. She knew who He was; what a contradiction that must have been. To see this special child, this wonderful healer and teacher, up on the cross, slowly dying. She was a witness to that as well. I wonder how much she understood about how important it was for Jesus to die up on the cross. I wonder if she thought back over Jesus’ life and all that she had seen Him do, all the miracles, signs and wonders that she witnessed.

 

I wonder about all the things we witness Christ doing, but out of ignorance or hard headedness we assign it to coincidence, or someone being nice, anything but God moving in our lives. I wonder about the lives we see changed, the people come to faith in Christ, and if we shrug our shoulders and say “well isn’t that nice” when we are really seeing God in action, and we should be amazed. All these people we’ve look at this Advent witnessed something amazing. They saw God. They saw a little baby, but they also saw God at the same time. They passed the knowledge of that miracle down to us. Now it is our turn, to either proclaim that miracle, or ignore it. To focus on Christ, or to lose Him during the chaos that is Christmas time. Witness this year. Witness God at work in your life, and say thank you. Witness God at work in the lives of your family and friends, and be grateful. Witness God moving in the church, and see where you can pitch in. Witness the miracle again, of God coming to us, in flesh, one of us, out of sheer love. Witness.

 

Let’s pray. 



[1]The New International Version, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House) 1984.

[2]The New International Version, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House) 1984.